June 11, 2011 § Leave a comment
Some quick thoughts… I read a posting on a blog this morning and it triggered these thoughts (actually a little ironic) together with other thoughts and recent personal experiences.
You can hear (I think many of us have heard this from an early age or been met with a message more or less explicitly saying):
“Don’t be so self-centred!”
But this is a safe way of making the child exactly this, whether you see it or not?That latter adult either behaves like he/she is invisble or the opposite or both? And on top he/she feels maybe also easily guilt for wanting (and sometimes needing) space? Something that doesn’t make things better.
And if you are self-occupied why are you?
And more interestingly: How are you cured from this?
Are you by saying to yourself or by being told:
”Be less self-centred!”
I’m quite ironic and sarcastic here. Because I wonder if those who are blamed for being self-centred aren’t those who are causing other people less problems? Compared to those you really could and should react at?
Can circumstances also make some people more self-centred, or expressed differently: more self-aware? There can be circumstances where you really blossom and grow, and others where you experience the opposite.
And there can also be a snobbishness over how people express themselves. How they use the language… Not to talk about how they are spelling. What does THIS say about the ones looking down on other people’s writings, unless those aren’t expressing horrible opinions?
I have a niece and a nephew who are dyslectics, but at least the niece is expressing herself gladly despite her bad spelling.
Yes, this about changing people… Why are we? And how do we deal with what and those we should really need to deal with? People really causing harm, and a lot of harm…
June 8, 2011 § Leave a comment
“Per Kornhall is the high school teacher running Satan’s errands. At least if you believe what some religious leaders say.”
Kornhall is now working for the National Swedish Agency for Education and this agency has been pointed out as a tool for the Devil by some religious leaders.
He has written a book recently about his experiences as a young teacher in a World of Life school in Sweden (Uppsala), where he sought safety as a young and lost/stray (vilsen) man.
“The pastor makes people give a tenth of their last money — even from their social allowances, because God has said they should. It’s God’s order.”
Everything is motivated with that it’s God’s will and this makes it difficult to contradict or question what the pastor(s) say.
By writing this book he wanted to bring these experiences to an end for his own sake, and he also wanted to contribute with a piece of contemporary history.
He was a little worried that by publishing this book traumatic memories would come to surface, something that never occured though. And he explains that:
“Those memories are well processed.”
Which means that he isn’t afraid of God’s punishment (any longer). The “control and manipulation in the name of Jesus” (also the under-title of the book) failed so he dares to speak out and thus hasn’t felt bad or anxious after the book was published.
But it can be quite different for the young people who have been schooled into this sect at an early age he thinks. When they break up/off they can start acting out, drinking and living wildly, because that’s what they have been taught about the world outside the sect. Thus thinking this is the way to behave. Or driven by an understandable need to rebel? Or maybe both?
And in the worst case this can harm both themselves and other people around them.
Kornhall taught his students about the evolution, of course this wasn’t looked upon with approval, but the leaders for the school didn’t dare to react of fear for the school authorities in Sweden. But when he started to critizise the pastor Ulf Ekman he was shut off.
And here is an article that says that Ulf Ekman is critizised for his real estate affairs. At the same time people are working in the church and earning very little money and a lot of those belonging to the congregation are quite poor, but still have to give a tenth to the church. The article says that Ekman and his wife bought a quite expensive house and then renovated it for a lot of money. People wonder where the money come from.
I can’t help but think about other sect-leaders.
Other articles about this school are also talking about blind obedience and authoritarianism, as in for instance “Serious criticism against the World of Life” from 2002 and “The Life of Word School is critizised” from this year.
June 11: The pediatrician Lars H. Gustafsson has written about a similar theme in a blogposting today. Where he mentions the book “Hängivelsen” (The Devotion) by the Swedish author Elisabeth Hjort. Here’s another blogposting about this book.