Alice Miller is dead…
April 24, 2010 § 4 Comments
Addition April 30:
“Alice Miller, Psychoanalyst, Dies at 87; Laid Human Problems to Parental Acts” in New York Times by William Grimes. Also see this article here.
“Alice Miller’s Gift to Humanity” by Olivier Maurel April 2010.
“Spankings. Questions and answers about disciplinary violence” by Olivier Maurel.
“Why we blame our parents” by Tara Parker-Pope in New York Times.
Addition May 3: The Swedish pediatrician Lars H. Gustafsson about Alice Miller.
He writes, in my amateur translation to English, that he had the advantage (or benefit) of meeting Miller at a small, informal seminar Save the children arranged around 25 years ago. An overwhelming meeting he writes.
He had just written his book “Leva med barn” (Live with children) and asked Miller how she looked at “the problem” with parents’ guilt feelings.
He told her that he met many parents with high demands on themselves, parents constantly walking around with bad conscience.
He had also noticed when he gave lectures for parents about children’s needs and rights that this easily made such feelings arise.
He didn’t know how to handle this.
Miller interrupted him, fastened her eyes on him and said sharply:
“My dear friend, parents SHALL have bad conscience. They have to take this, it is their damn duty.
When parents have done so many bad things to their kids through the years…
No, don’t come here now and talk about bad conscience as a problem in this circumstance! They are grown up people, aren’t they!”
Many people in the Swedish media (and not only in Swedish media) are in denial, have fairly strong defences? Denying what Miller has written about and the importance of those things? Denying how in fact essential the way we treat our kids are?
Addition May 5: See the article ”How I Found Alice Miller, and Lost Her” by Jane Isay.